Sunday, April 24, 2011

De-fense! De-fense!

Do you ever have the feeling like you need to defend yourself? Like someone is attacking your character and forcing you to stick up for your actions or beliefs? It’s a very annoying and frustrating position to be in.

However, we don’t NEED to defend ourselves against anyone! When someone is “attacking” you it is usually a reflection of that person’s own insecurities and lack of inner strength. Think about it, if you had solid confidence in yourself and true control over your emotions why would you ever be concerned with criticizing and judging other people? You wouldn’t! You would be fine letting other people live their lives as they please, unaffected by the decisions they make or beliefs they have.

We often react to such “attacks” by becoming immediately defensive, like a turtle pulling into its shell at any sign of danger. We get a tightening inside our chest and stomach that tells us to go into self-protection mode. But it’s important to realize that the problem is not with you, you are doing just fine and walking the path you choose. It’s the people that lash out towards you in discontent that have the real issues here.

Now that’s not to say that we should just unconsciously plow ahead with our lives, ignoring anybody else’s opinions and advice. It’s important to honor constructive criticism and really listen to people because many times you can greatly benefit from making some adjustments in your life, nobody’s perfect after all. But if you are investing the proper time and energy into your personal growth and have a firm understanding of who you are and what you stand for, let those that are less evolved say and think what they will. You are fine just the way you are.

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