Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Balancing Pride

You’ve heard it before and know it’s true: life is all about balance. It’s just like surfing. Sometimes the waves are knocking you down and sometimes you’re shredding them with grace and style. Every aspect of our lives needs to be in balance and it takes constant practice and awareness to reach a happy level of equilibrium.

There’s one particular aspect that this applies to twofold: Pride.

First, there’s the sense of outward pride you have with yourself and other people. And I think the golden rule in this sense is to “check your ego at the door”. Humility is a virtue and one that should be practiced by all. It doesn’t matter how much money you make or how popular you are, you’re just as much a human being as every other person on this planet so don’t ever act like you’re better than anyone else. Always stay modest and humble because no one likes the company of a cocky person.

Second, there’s your inner pride, your self-confidence. I think that it’s good be aware of the areas of your life that need improvement because that allows for you to set goals and take steps towards reaching your full potential. But too much attention on your shortfalls can be very unhealthy and cause damage to your self-esteem. We can’t always focus on what we’re not happy with. There needs to be balance. We must also recognize the greatness within ourselves and take pride in knowing that we are amazing people with lots of wonderful qualities.

I think the key to finding balance in this area of our lives is to stay outwardly humble and inwardly proud. Practice modesty and humility in your interactions with others but also make sure to take the time to appreciate and acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments and character. Check your ego at the door then give yourself a pat on the back.


  1. Insightful as always, Nik. I love the concept of balance. Thanks for sharing :)

  2. good job Nik - you make me proud :)

    btw: i'll adding this to my recent post "apocalyptic buddhism | Kalachakra | to become a buddha | beginner's mind | peace action" - http://rceezwhatzmore.blogspot.com/2011/07/apocalyptic-buddhism-kalachakra-to.html

  3. Nik, I am so proud to be your cousin. This is the second blog I have read, and as before it came at the right time in my life. Wow! Thank you. I think I will just read your blogs instead of my daily horoscopes. :) You are a very gifted person. Keep up the good work. I'm very proud of you. I can't wait to see you again. It's been way too long.
    Love, Cherie

  4. so important for people to remember about pride. I feel like a lot of people don't look at it in those ways, but it's so true that it's important to keep the balance of outer and inner pride. "Outwardly humble and inwardly proud"...a saying, among many others, that people should say remind themselves every day